[New Post] Are you childish or childlike?

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I want to begin this blog by having you listen to an audio clip of Rachael when she was only 18 Months Old.

Click the link and then finish reading.

Rachael knew that I would get her some cereal. She had complete trust in this. Why?, because I was her loving father.

There is this amazing interaction between some parents, Jesus’s disciples and Jesus in:

Matthew 19:13-14 (NLT)
13 One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could lay his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
14 But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.”

Jesus was not only welcoming the little children, but He was also expressing a special welcome to those who come to him in child-like simplicity, whether they were children or adults.

So what are the Childlike qualities that Jesus is referring to?

  1. Innocence
  2. Obedient
  3. Easily Forgive
  4. Honest
  5. Trust
  6. The ability to be teachable
  7. Wonder and Imagination
  8. Complete Dependance

Jesus said that the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to people with these qualities.

So that being the case, I want to look at what causes people to be Childish.
What are characteristics of someone who is Childish?

  1. Ego
  2. Feeling the need to be catered to
  3. Selfish
  4. Jealous
  5. Say hurtful things to your spouse, family, friends or co-workers.

 

Let’s look at two passages of scripture that talk about having childish behavior.

1 Peter 2:1-3
New Living Translation (NLT)
2 So get rid of all evil behavior. Be done with all deceit, hypocrisy, jealousy, and all unkind speech. 2 Like newborn babies, you must crave pure spiritual milk so that you will grow into a full experience of salvation. Cry out for this nourishment, 3 now that you have had a taste of the Lord’s kindness.
1 Corinthians 3:1-3
New Living Translation (NLT)
Paul and Apollos, Servants of Christ
3 Dear brothers and sisters,[a] when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would to spiritual people.[b] I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in the Christian life.[c] 2 I had to feed you with milk, not with solid food, because you weren’t ready for anything stronger. And you still aren’t ready, 3 for you are still controlled by your sinful nature. You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn’t that prove you are controlled by your sinful nature? Aren’t you living like people of the world?

There is a huge difference between being Childlike and Childish

According to these two passages what’s causes us to be Childish is when we refuse to let God deal with our crap.

There is nothing worse than a toddler that refuses to let you change their diaper.

But this is what we are doing when we refuse to allow God to change us.

Proverbs 20:11 (NLT)
11  Even children are known by the way they act,
 whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right.
Our actions show if we are Childlike in our approach to Jesus and His Kingdom or Childish.

One leads to maturity the other leaves us in constant a state of immaturity
James 4:1-3 (NIV) says:
4 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

We quarrel and fight like childish kids way too often trying to get one up on each other.
So how do we become childlike?

In order to have a Childlike approach life, we have to surrender any and all control.

Proverbs 3:5-7 (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
 and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him,
 and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes;
 fear the Lord and shun evil.


Let’s look at the characteristics of a follower of Christ that is Childlike like in their faith:

Obedient
Ephesians 5:1-11
New International Version (NIV)
1 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.[a] 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
Easily Forgive
Have you ever had to ask one of your children to forgive you? The wonderful thing about children is they are so willing to forgive and do it quickly.

Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Mark 11:25
New International Version (NIV)
25 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Matthew: 18:21 -22

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.

This is important because Peter thought he was gracious, Jewish tradition required you to forgive only three times for the same offense.

Jesus says 70 times in one day.

What He was implying was that we should always forgive.

Forgive easily, this is what it means to be Childlike in our forgiveness.

Honest
Kids sometimes lie when they do something wrong but ask them their opinion about something, and they will be completely honest.

Proverbs 12:22 (NIV)
22 The Lord detests lying lips,
 but he delights in people who are trustworthy.

Trust
We are to trust our Heavenly Father as much as children trust their earthly father.

Children are entirely dependent on their parents. If they need anything — a shoulder to sleep on, a diaper change, milk or food, a hand to help them walk, arms to crawl into — they turn to their mommy or daddy with wide eyes, open arms, knowing that they can help them.

Or do you remember as a child leaping into your father’s arms and knowing that he wouldn’t drop you? Or allowing him to grab your arms and swing you around knowing they wouldn’t let go?

Never once did you think, “I wonder what would happen if dad let me fall?”

No, you had trust that your father would not let go of you.

It’s the old “LET GO AND LET GOD”

Psalm 121:7
New International Version (NIV)
7 The Lord will keep you from all harm—
  he will watch over your life;
Matthew 6:25-34
New International Version (NIV)
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Simply put, Jesus was saying Trust Me in all things, this is what it means to be Childlike with our Trust.

Loving

Rarely will you find a child that is not loving. Those that don’t have been taught that from those that are around them.

Children love everything they love animals, other kids, no matter what their color may be. They have a capacity for love and sympathy.

Children in a hospital or a day care. When one starts to cry, they all start to cry out of sympathy for the one that is hurting.

Sadly, often our hearts become harder and less sensitive as we grow older.

I believe this is why Jesus wants us to be as children.

John 13:34-35

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples if ye have love one to another.

Be loving, this is what it means to be Childlike with our love.

Teachable

John Naisbitt said: The most important skill to acquire is learning how to learn, that ability begins with a teachable attitude.
If you are going to be Childlike, you have to have a teachable attitude.

Psalm 86:11 (NIV)
Teach me your way, Lord,
 that I may rely on your faithfulness;
give me an undivided heart,
    that I may fear your name.

Be teachable, this is what it means to be Childlike in how we learn from God.
Wonder and Imagination

Children love to discover and use their imagination. They point to everything wanting to know what it means, wanting to touch it, to experience it for themselves. They can imagine amazing things in their mind.
Are we always in the state of wonder and imagination towards God?

Do you approach God with wonder and awe like a child believing that He is the God of the impossible?

God is infinite.
Isaiah 55:8-9 (NIV)
8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts.

We have so much to learn!
Have Childlike amazement in your relationship with God, this is what it means to be Childlike with wonder and imagination.

Joy

There’s no better sound in the world than little children laughing. They delight in the simplest of things — a silly face, a cute little tickle, a tumbling toy. There’s no concern about how others will think of them. They simply are joyous.

How long has it been since you enjoyed the moment you are in with God?

God’s desire the same from His children:

Philippians 4:4 (NIV)
4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!
Being Childlike is being joyful in who our God is!

Purity

Perhaps one of the greatest gifts children give to the world is their purity. They are untainted and untroubled by worldly concerns, issues, problems. They go about their day seeing and doing good. Their joy, their very being, is pure, good, and true.
Doesn’t the kingdom of heaven require purity?

Jesus said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” (Matt 5:8). Only a pure state of thought can truly see and understand God and God’s kingdom.
Moving from childish ways to childlike ways comes down to the daily decision to trust God in all things.

Question: What are your thoughts on this topic? Leave a comment below. 

 

[New blog post] “Do you have a harvest mindset?”

Farmers hands with freshly harvested blue grapes. Toned

Do you have a harvest mindset?

I understand that it’s only spring but to live your best life and do great work you have to live everyday with a harvest mindset.

In the Bible there was a man named Abraham and God visited him when he was 90 years old and said in:

Genesis 17: “I am El-Shaddai—‘God Almighty.’ Serve me faithfully and live a blameless life. 2 I will make a covenant with you, by which I will guarantee to give you countless descendants.”

God made a promise to him at 90 years old that he was going to give him numerous descendants.
Now what you may not know is Abraham did not have any children, so it appeared that this was impossible.

God then said to Abraham that he would bless his wife Sarah and give her a son.

They were both very old at the time that God planted in them a seed of promise. A seed that God promised would become a harvest.
During this time, Abraham and Sarah never doubted the seed of promise that was placed inside of them.

When it appeared that nothing was happening, they remained faithful to the promise that was planted inside them.

They lived their life with a Harvest mindset.

A harvest mindset is fixing your eyes on the promises of God trusting that He will do what He said He would do in your life no matter the circumstances. – KC Cupp

 

God promises us in:

Romans 8:28:
That God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

If you are a follower of Jesus today than God is going to cause everything to work together for your good.

This is a promise from God.

When it appears that everything is going wrong, we have to remember the promises of God and keep a harvest mindset.

The promises of God are like seeds planted in our hearts.

But you might be saying: “KC, I don’t see God working everything together in my life. You don’t know what I have been, though. I am in debt up to my eyeballs, my spouse is always nagging at me, in fact, my dog even hates me.”

That may be true. But what we need to understand is that living with a harvest mindset is about HOW you see your situation.

God has planted his seed of promise inside of you. He is causing everything to work together for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose.

Too often rather than standing on the promises of God and having a harvest mindset we allow the enemy to come in a steal our harvest before it’s harvest time.

Song of Songs 2:15 (NIV)
Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes
that ruin the vineyards,
our vineyards that are in bloom.

Foxes will sneak into vineyards. They will gnaw and break the little branches and leaves. They will dig holes in the vineyards, and spoil the roots.

Spiritual foxes (negative thinking, doubt, unbelief) will do the same in our life and attempt to destroy your harvest.

Having a harvest mindset is about believing the promises of God more than your circumstances.

Hebrews 11:1 says:
11 Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.

You may not see how your situation is going to work out but God does.

It takes more energy to worry, stew and fret about the bad things in your life than it does to stay in faith and believe God for a harvest!

So how do we stay in faith and walk in a harvest mindset?
I believe Philippians 4:4-13 (NLT) teaches us how to walk in a harvest mindset:
Philippians 4:4-13  Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! 5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon.[a] 6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. 9 Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.10 How I praise the Lord that you are concerned about me again. I know you have always been concerned for me, but you didn’t have the chance to help me. 11 Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. 12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ,[b] who gives me strength.

To have a Harvest mindset you have to:

  1. Always be full of Joy (Phil 4:4)
  2. Be considerate/patient in all you do ( Phil 4:5)
  3. Don’t worry ( Phil 4:6)
  4. Pray about everything ( Phil 4:6)
  5. Thank God for all He has done ( Phil 4:6 )
    1. This brings Gods peace which exceeds anything we can understand
  6. Fix your thoughts on good things, don’t focus on the negative
    What is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and worthy of praise.
  7. Take action on what you learn in church and read in your Bible ( Phil 4:9) 7
  8. Be content. This is called “The secret to successfully in every situation
  9. Rely on God’s strength ( Phil 4:13)

Why do we do this?
Because God is always faithful and He will never let you down.

The Bible tells us that:  God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. Ephesians 3:20 (NIV) 

 

Question: How can you begin to have a harvest mindset today? Leave me a comment below. I would love to hear from you! 

P.S.- Take a look at my upcoming conference called Breakthrough You-Niversity! You can watch the video below and check out the website www.MyBreakthroughConference.Com

[New Blog Post] Practice doesn’t make perfect and why you need a mentor

 

Practice does not make perfect and why you need a mentor

How many years have you been trying to lose weight, work on your relationships, get in shape or get out of debt, etc.?

Everyone says “Practice makes perfect” but this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Practice doesn’t make perfect; practice makes permanent.

If you continually practice the wrong things, you will develop bad habits.

When was the last time you asked for help? Not from a book or a blog ( Not that those are bad! Hey! You’re reading this one right! lol ) but when was the last time you sought after a mentor. Someone who could guide you forward to achieve your goals?

When I ask people this question, the answer is almost always never.

People are too afraid to ask for help in areas that they feel that they have failed.

Guess what, we all have areas where we need a mentor/mentors.

“Live to learn and you will really learn to live.” – John C Maxwell

There are people already at the place you want to go.

Doesn’t it make sense to ask them for life directions?

A mentor is a guide that leads you down the path / paths that have worked for them.

I have mentors in multiple areas of my life. The mentors that come to mind are my CrossFit mentors/coaches.

They are my example, the ones that push me to improve my physical health and the ones that point out when I am doing something incorrectly.

They keep my wrong practice from becoming permanent and forming a bad habit.

Most of the bad habits in our life are due to the lack of mentors.

The only way to move our goals ( i.e. lose weight, work on your relationships, get in shape, or get out of debt, etc.) is to find a mentor that can guide you.

“Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.” ― Ziad K. Abdelnour

If you aren’t improving, then you are stuck. If you are stuck, it’s because there is something you are not seeing and if you can’t see what’s making you stuck…you need a mentor.

Mentors unlock and propel you toward your goals because they point out things you can not see.

My company, Life Organized mentors men and women in the areas of Thoughts, Relationships, Finances, Career and Physical Health.

As a mentor, I guide people down the paths that have worked for me.

I haven’t reached every goal that I am working towards in these five areas, so I understand that there are times when as a mentor, I need to point people toward resources and people that have traveled farther than I can take someone.

“Change is inevitable … growth is optional.” – John C Maxwell

A mentor can be:

  • Someone you hire.
  • A friend that will be honest with you and is already in a place/level you want to go.
  • A video series you purchase or book you read.

I believe that in-person mentoring makes to get you headed in the direction you want your life to go.

Question: What area/areas of your life do you need a mentor? Also, I would love to help. You can find more information about our Life Organized Coaching by clicking HERE.

[New Blog Post] “Good intentions and the lies we tell ourselves”

Good intentions and the lies we tell ourselves-3

 

We lie to ourselves.

We lie to ourselves with “Good Intention” conversations.

“One more week of working 60 hours and then I am going to make time for my kids.”
“After this Friday, I am going to get back to the gym.”
“This is the last day I’m eating fast food.”

Whatever conversation we tell ourselves, it’s good intention conversations that keep us from the hard decisions and hard work needed to live our best life and do great work.

Good intentions create a false sense of momentum.

They make us feel good because we WANT to do good. The problem is the feeling associated with our good intentions mask over that fact that we are doing nothing to move forward and take action.

If we are honest, we would admit that we are avoiding something.

Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them. – Henry Ford

There is often a deeper conversation that keeps up from taking action.

Our good intentions are often associated with feelings of guilt and failure.

We don’t take action because we have ‘tried in the past”, “my family is already upset with me so why try”, I’ve tried too many times to lose weight”.

When your good intentions begin racing through your mind, remember that THIS IS YOUR ONLY LIFE.

We all know that good intentions are meaningless unless acted upon.

So how do we stop the lies act on our good intentions and follow through?

Follow these five steps:

      1. Acknowledge the deeper conversation.

Be honest with yourself where you feel guilt and failure but don’t allow these conversations to hold you back.

       2.  Find a WHY larger than your LIE

The real reason we have good intentions but aren’t acting on them is because our WHY is not larger than our LIE. To move forward with anything that takes hard work, we have to have an emotional why that drives us to act. Every day at lunch I go to Crossfit and workout. There are many days where I don’t want to go. It’s my WHY that drives me to go regardless of my emotions. What’s my WHY? We had a close friend of our that lost their husband to a heart attack. She is now a widow with two little kids. Every day I think about him and then I think about my family and how I want to be healthy for them. My WHY is larger than my LIE of “I’ll get back to the gym soon”.

     3. Go for the short win.
Set short, achievable goals. Focus on daily and weekly goals when you are first starting to overcome your good intentions.

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. – Henry Ford

    4. Get it on your calendar.

        If you don’t schedule it, it’s not going to happen.
    5. Tell “everyone” about your good intentions.

This will give place instant pressure on you and give you immediate accountability.  I wouldn’t really tell everyone! Tell those that you trust and will push you to   follow through.

Question: What lies do you tell yourself and what steps can you take to overcome them? Leave a comment below! 

[New Blog Post] The Squiggly Line

The Squiggly Line

The shortest distance between two points is a straight line.

Correct mathematically, but life doesn’t work out this way.

When we plan our life and set goals, we forget about the squiggly line.

The squiggly line represents the twists, turns, ups, downs, hills and valleys of life.

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
― Oscar Wilde

Often, the best parts of our life are found on the detours from the straight line.

If you have the mentality of “Nothing is going to get in the way of my goals” then you become frustrated and want to quit because life is going to get in the way.

In the process of pursuing our goals amidst the squiggly line of life, we change, grow, learn, and tweak our plans.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
― Allen Saunders

Our straight line goals are not to be looked at as fixed but flexible.

If our goals are so fixed that we never bend, when life’s squiggly line shows up, our “Plan” falls apart.

The only way to truly reach your goals is to embrace the squiggly line.

When the squiggly line appears ( and it will ) ask:

– How can I use this squiggly line experience to move forward?
– What can I learn from this squiggly line experience?
– Is the squiggly line taking me on a better path than my current straight line goals?

When the squiggly line appears, embrace the following:

– Prepare for detours.
– Be open to changing direction.
– Set goals but enjoy the squiggly line called life.

Questions: In what ways is the squiggly line appearing in your life? Leave me a comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts.