[New Blog Post] Practice doesn’t make perfect and why you need a mentor

 

Practice does not make perfect and why you need a mentor

How many years have you been trying to lose weight, work on your relationships, get in shape or get out of debt, etc.?

Everyone says “Practice makes perfect” but this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Practice doesn’t make perfect; practice makes permanent.

If you continually practice the wrong things, you will develop bad habits.

When was the last time you asked for help? Not from a book or a blog ( Not that those are bad! Hey! You’re reading this one right! lol ) but when was the last time you sought after a mentor. Someone who could guide you forward to achieve your goals?

When I ask people this question, the answer is almost always never.

People are too afraid to ask for help in areas that they feel that they have failed.

Guess what, we all have areas where we need a mentor/mentors.

“Live to learn and you will really learn to live.” – John C Maxwell

There are people already at the place you want to go.

Doesn’t it make sense to ask them for life directions?

A mentor is a guide that leads you down the path / paths that have worked for them.

I have mentors in multiple areas of my life. The mentors that come to mind are my CrossFit mentors/coaches.

They are my example, the ones that push me to improve my physical health and the ones that point out when I am doing something incorrectly.

They keep my wrong practice from becoming permanent and forming a bad habit.

Most of the bad habits in our life are due to the lack of mentors.

The only way to move our goals ( i.e. lose weight, work on your relationships, get in shape, or get out of debt, etc.) is to find a mentor that can guide you.

“Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.” ― Ziad K. Abdelnour

If you aren’t improving, then you are stuck. If you are stuck, it’s because there is something you are not seeing and if you can’t see what’s making you stuck…you need a mentor.

Mentors unlock and propel you toward your goals because they point out things you can not see.

My company, Life Organized mentors men and women in the areas of Thoughts, Relationships, Finances, Career and Physical Health.

As a mentor, I guide people down the paths that have worked for me.

I haven’t reached every goal that I am working towards in these five areas, so I understand that there are times when as a mentor, I need to point people toward resources and people that have traveled farther than I can take someone.

“Change is inevitable … growth is optional.” – John C Maxwell

A mentor can be:

  • Someone you hire.
  • A friend that will be honest with you and is already in a place/level you want to go.
  • A video series you purchase or book you read.

I believe that in-person mentoring makes to get you headed in the direction you want your life to go.

Question: What area/areas of your life do you need a mentor? Also, I would love to help. You can find more information about our Life Organized Coaching by clicking HERE.

[New Blog Post] “Good intentions and the lies we tell ourselves”

Good intentions and the lies we tell ourselves-3

 

We lie to ourselves.

We lie to ourselves with “Good Intention” conversations.

“One more week of working 60 hours and then I am going to make time for my kids.”
“After this Friday, I am going to get back to the gym.”
“This is the last day I’m eating fast food.”

Whatever conversation we tell ourselves, it’s good intention conversations that keep us from the hard decisions and hard work needed to live our best life and do great work.

Good intentions create a false sense of momentum.

They make us feel good because we WANT to do good. The problem is the feeling associated with our good intentions mask over that fact that we are doing nothing to move forward and take action.

If we are honest, we would admit that we are avoiding something.

Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them. – Henry Ford

There is often a deeper conversation that keeps up from taking action.

Our good intentions are often associated with feelings of guilt and failure.

We don’t take action because we have ‘tried in the past”, “my family is already upset with me so why try”, I’ve tried too many times to lose weight”.

When your good intentions begin racing through your mind, remember that THIS IS YOUR ONLY LIFE.

We all know that good intentions are meaningless unless acted upon.

So how do we stop the lies act on our good intentions and follow through?

Follow these five steps:

      1. Acknowledge the deeper conversation.

Be honest with yourself where you feel guilt and failure but don’t allow these conversations to hold you back.

       2.  Find a WHY larger than your LIE

The real reason we have good intentions but aren’t acting on them is because our WHY is not larger than our LIE. To move forward with anything that takes hard work, we have to have an emotional why that drives us to act. Every day at lunch I go to Crossfit and workout. There are many days where I don’t want to go. It’s my WHY that drives me to go regardless of my emotions. What’s my WHY? We had a close friend of our that lost their husband to a heart attack. She is now a widow with two little kids. Every day I think about him and then I think about my family and how I want to be healthy for them. My WHY is larger than my LIE of “I’ll get back to the gym soon”.

     3. Go for the short win.
Set short, achievable goals. Focus on daily and weekly goals when you are first starting to overcome your good intentions.

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. – Henry Ford

    4. Get it on your calendar.

        If you don’t schedule it, it’s not going to happen.
    5. Tell “everyone” about your good intentions.

This will give place instant pressure on you and give you immediate accountability.  I wouldn’t really tell everyone! Tell those that you trust and will push you to   follow through.

Question: What lies do you tell yourself and what steps can you take to overcome them? Leave a comment below! 

[New Blog Post] The Squiggly Line

The Squiggly Line

The shortest distance between two points is a straight line.

Correct mathematically, but life doesn’t work out this way.

When we plan our life and set goals, we forget about the squiggly line.

The squiggly line represents the twists, turns, ups, downs, hills and valleys of life.

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
― Oscar Wilde

Often, the best parts of our life are found on the detours from the straight line.

If you have the mentality of “Nothing is going to get in the way of my goals” then you become frustrated and want to quit because life is going to get in the way.

In the process of pursuing our goals amidst the squiggly line of life, we change, grow, learn, and tweak our plans.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
― Allen Saunders

Our straight line goals are not to be looked at as fixed but flexible.

If our goals are so fixed that we never bend, when life’s squiggly line shows up, our “Plan” falls apart.

The only way to truly reach your goals is to embrace the squiggly line.

When the squiggly line appears ( and it will ) ask:

– How can I use this squiggly line experience to move forward?
– What can I learn from this squiggly line experience?
– Is the squiggly line taking me on a better path than my current straight line goals?

When the squiggly line appears, embrace the following:

– Prepare for detours.
– Be open to changing direction.
– Set goals but enjoy the squiggly line called life.

Questions: In what ways is the squiggly line appearing in your life? Leave me a comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts. 

[New Blog Post] “How Is This Idea Going to Turn Out? …and other FEAR questions that keep us paralyzed

How Is This Idea Going to Turn Out? ...and other FEAR questions that keep us paralyzed

“How Is This Idea Going to Turn Out?

This question is the result of a deeper problem.

The question rooted in fear of the unknown.

Is it wrong to want to know how things are going to turn out? I would say no and yes.

No, because none of us want to be uncertain about anything. (That’s why some of us read the last page of a new novel)

I would also say yes because when was the last time you knew how anything was going to turn out?

We can plan, strategize and make our best-educated guess but in the end, no one knows.

“How Is This Idea Going to Turn Out? is a paralyzing question. It keeps us from trying new things, taking the plunge, or going for it.

Is there a chance you will fail? It depends on how you view failure.

“The only thing worse than starting something and failing is not starting something – Seth Godin

At its core, what does it mean to fail?

Failure is the story in our head not lining up with how things turn out.

What if you stopped holding your ideas prisoner by the stories in your head and allow yourself to take a chance?

The pursuit of certainty is the death of innovation.

Part of the rush of trying something new comes from the fact that we don’t know how this is going to turn out.

“How is this idea going to turn out?”

How is this question keeping you from going for that new job, starting that business or creating that widget?

Stop being paralyzed by the pursuit of certainty. You will never have it no matter what you do. “How is this idea going to turn out?” is not the question.

The question is “What does my life look like if I never take a chance?”

Plan, strategize, and then jump.