Welcome to part two of seven in our blog series titled: “The Seven T’s of an Amazing Marriage”.
In part one I shared the first T:
1. Tune (Listening)
I discussed how “Tune” is all about perspective and communication. Tuning in to each other is not only learning how to communicate…but understanding how each other communicates.
Perspective is allowing yourself to see the conversation, decisions being made, arguments being raised, or any other situation from the other persons perspective.
Our second T to an amazing marriage is:
You cannot have an amazing marriage if you are not completely honest with one another. When you are not open and honest with your spouse you close the door to being vulnerable.
Trusting people, at it’s core is hoping that based on their track record, this personis going to continue to be trustworthy and behave in a consistent manner with what they have modeled to up to this point. – Dr. Henry Cloud
- We conceal our weaknesses and mistakes from our spouse.
- We hesitate to ask for help or ask for constructive feedback.
- We jump to conclusions about the intentions and aptitudes of our spouse without attempting to clarify them
- We waste time and energy managing our behaviors to keep themselves guarded.
- We hold grudges
- We refuse to forgive