9 ways to die and discover your life in the process

 

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Simple. In the moment. Decluttered. Rewarding. Fulfilling. Free
Are these words that describe your life? I wish I could say every word described my life but I am on a journey.  I am finding that the less I cling to, the more my life represents the words above.
I’ve been on a this journey for over four years now but didn’t realize what God was doing with me until recently. I can piece together the “ bead crumbs”  God has sprinkled along my path guiding and leading me along every step.  This journey started years ago while reading Matthew chapters 5-7. It is these verses that have transformed my life more than any other and continue to as I read them weekly.

I am learning what it means to be in the moment, to not worry about tomorrow, to store up treasures in heaven and pursue what has eternal value. I’m also discovering the painful truth of  how selfish I am, how much I want my own way and how I often cling to things that have no eternal value and expect to find fulfillment and meaning.

We tell ourselves that life is about gaining more when true joy and fulfillment comes through giving, surrender, and dying to ourselves.

Matthew 10:39New Living Translation (NLT)
39 If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.

We cling to possessions for our identity…

We cling to a career for our identity…

We cling to our gifts and talents for our identity…

…losing our life in the process.

The less I cling to in my head, home and heart the more I find the life God desires for me.

The more I die to, the more alive I become.

I discover what it truly means to live when I  die to:

  1. The need for more
  2. Ego
  3. Independence
  4. Anger
  5. Guilt
  6. Fear
  7. Regret
  8. Worry
  9. Comparing yourself to others

The journey of dying to ourselves is not easy.

It is the best life God has designed for you and me. A life of clinging to less, dying to more and discovering our life in the process.

 

Question: What would you add to the “Dying To” list and why? Leave a comment below.

Episode #7 Why people are walking all over you and how to make it stop [Podcast]

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Today we are going to talk about:

“Why people are walking all over you and how to make it stop”.

In episode 7 I discuss reasons we do not stand up for ourselves and how we allow others to cross over on to our “property” freely. Without healthy boundaries, we give people permission to cross over the boundaries we should have in place.

So how do we stop people from walking all over us?  

Set up healthy boundaries.

We do this when we are willing to engage in healthy:

  1. Confrontation
  2. Rebuking
  3. Exhortation
  4. Forgiveness
  5. Group Intervention
  6. Consequences
  7. Discipline
  8. Restoration
  9. Limit Setting
  10. Possibile separation

Question: What steps are you taking to set healthy boundaries and move your relationships from breakdown to breakthrough? Share your comments below.

Show Notes: 

Boundaries book by Dr, Henry Cloud Click Here: http://amzn.to/1tYY4sw

Episode #6 Five ways to stretch toward your breakthrough [Podcast]

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In this episode we are going to talk about “5 ways to stretch towards your breakthrough”

If you’re unable to stretch, you’re unable to contain the new breakthrough God wants to bring to your life. God is always trying to get us to move forward with Him. He is always encouraging us to draw near to Him,  to surrender more to Him and lay down our old ways of thinking that hold us back from His best for our life. God wants us to expand our vision of who He is and all that He wants to do in our lives.

In this episode I share how our dry, brittle ways of thinking about God and our circumstances can keep us from stretching.

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Show Notes:

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Here are 5 ways we need to stretch towards our breakthrough: 

1. Take inventory of your old wine-skins ( Old ways of thinking, old way of doing things)
2. Be willing to venture out and try new things
3.Don’t try to place God’s new thing into your old dry habits
4.Believe by faith that God has the best things in store for your life as you let go of your old wine skins
5.Tell others

How to discover what really matters in life

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What are my values?

I’ve been asking myself this question a lot lately. Reflecting not on what I say my values are, but looking at how I behave.

Our values determine our priorities. Our priorities are the things or relationships that come before the lesser things in our life.  The lesser things in our life are not decided by what we say are our values are,  but by how we behave. Our behaviors shows what really matters to us.

How many of the things or relationships we say are our priorities actually are? When our behavior contradicts what we say are one of our values, we are only deceiving ourselves.

Luke 12:34 (NLT) says:

34 Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.

This scripture is saying that we prioritize our life around the things and relationships we believe will bring us the greatest value. All too often what we value and prioritize our life around are things and relationships that will not last in eternity.

Matthew 6:19-21 (NLT) says:

19 “Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal.

What are chasing today that will not matter in eternity? What or who are you neglecting in the process?

Where your treasure is there your heart will be also or what you value there your priorities will be also. 

If you want to have true fulfillment in your life align your values with Gods. You only have one life. Prioritize your life around what will last throughout all eternity and will bring true fulfillment in this life.

How can you decide what your values truly are?

Ask yourself:

  1. What do I say my values are?
  2. How do I behave?

After you write what you say your values are and what you actually do, take the next step to make the decision to align yourself with:

  • What God values.
  • What you desire your values to be.
  • How you behave.

Discovering what really matters in this life stores up treasure in the next.

Eposide #5 “Contentment, the desire for less” [Podcast]

Content. Is this the way you would describe yourself?

So much of our life is filled with the pursuit for more. More stuff will never bring contentment. Being content is what leads to true peace and fulfillment. Are you content? Find out how to be content in this episode.

Leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you!

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Episode #3 “How to get ahead financially by owning nothing” [ Podcast ]

In this episode we are going to talk about “How to get ahead financially by owning nothing”

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What do you own? Do you see yourself as an owner or as a manager? I explain these questions in this weeks episode!

Show notes

Click Here:  FREE 1 Day Breakthrough Budget Worksheet With Scriptures

Questions from podcast:

  1. What are some ways we can be good manager of what God has entrusted to us?
  2. What is something you can do today to change how you view what you “own”?
  3. What are some things you can cancel to help you align yourself with Gods way of handling finances? ( Cable, Netflix, Starbucks, etc. )

 

The #1 Dragon Everyone Must Slay

 

There is a dragon that is always waiting to attack.  He breathes fiery lies that attempt to destroy us. His mission is to melt away our self confidence, steal our motivation and cripple us from becoming who God has called us to be. Everyone has had to fight him.  He is the dragon of fear.  If you are looking for ways to defeat him…you can’t. In our own strength the dragon always wins. There is one who can defeat the dragon who is more powerful and the one in whom we need place our trust. 

 As Psalm 56:3 says:  When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.

Fear is something we will always face. The question is will we allow it to cripple us and shut us down or will we place our trust in the God?       

2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) says: For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. 

Notice it says a “Spirit of Fear”.  Fear in some cases is a good emotion. This verse is talking about a “Spirit of Fear” The devil tries to attack us with a demonic spirit of fear. This spirits objective is to grab a hold of your life and work against you and keep you from moving forward in God. But be encouraged because God on your side!

What’s amazing about this verse is that it makes the bold statement that God has NOT given us a spirit of Fear and he has given us the tools to overcome fear!  God HAS given us POWER, LOVE and SELF-DISCIPLINE.  I

It takes all three to slay the dragon of fear and move areas of our life from breakdown to breakthrough!

1. God has given us POWER

The word power in this verse is the Greek word “dynamos” it means: miraculous, power, might, strength. This word dynamite derives from this Greek word for meaning power! So God’s power in our life is like dynamite that blasts away fear and breakthroughs any and all barriers! 

2. God has given us LOVE

Scripture tells us that there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear! (See 1 John 4:18) The fear dragon is destroyed when we understand the fullness of God’s love that has been given to us!   Ephesians 3:18 (NLT) says: 18 And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. God’s love is deep and wide. His love never fails us! As 1 Timothy 1:7 says, His Love has ALREADY been given to us. We possess it. 

3. God has given us SELF-DISCIPLINE

Here is the definition of self discipline: “the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it.”

God has given you his explosive power, all of his love and the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses with the ability to pursue what is right despite temptations to abandon it. WOW!

Time to slay the dragon of fear!  You have everything you need in Christ to overcome any and all fears.

Questions: Where do you struggle with fear?  What do you think about fear after reading this blog post? Let me know! Leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you!

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Click Here: http://www.1daybreakthrough.com/?page_id=588

 

Episode #2 Declutter Your Life

In episode #2 I discuss ways to declutter your head home and heart to the presence of God.

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Life clutter…
It shows up in head, home and heart in many different shapes and forms.
No matter what type of clutter, moving from breakdown to breakthrough begins with the realization that the power of the Holy Spirit life is needed for this to happen.
If it really is one of the best ways to move life forward, why is it so difficult? Find out more in today’s podcast episode: “Declutter Your Life”

 

Show notes:

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Why what you do for pleasure may end up causing you pain [Blog Post]

Have you ever thought about the habits in your life? Habits are defined as: an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. 

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Let me ask you: 

What do you do to relax? What do you do to take your mind off of stressful things? What do you avoid doing? 

Now that you have answered these questions in your head, ask yourself: 

Why do I do these things? 

If you are honest with yourself you will discover that there are two reasons: 

1. To avoid pain
2. To seek pleasure

There is nothing wrong with having fun and relaxing. Everyone needs to have healthy recreation and restful routines in order to stay healthy emotionally, physically and spiritually. Also, there is nothing wrong with avoiding painful situations if that is the wise decision. 

The problem arises when we distort what we believe to be pleasure and what we believe to be pain. 

Here are a couple examples: 

Example #1: 
You may have a routine of driving home from work, grabbing fast food , sitting down on the couch, watching TV and eating ice-cream. This habitual routine seems pleasurable to you at the time. Over time this habit will begin to effect you in a painful way but causing problems physically, emotionally and spiritually. The problem is that because there is no apparent pain at the time from your habits, you continue to ignore the “pain” of exercising and eating better. 
Example #2: 
You have an old car with high mileage but it still runs. Your “friends” continue to joke with you about your “cool ride” and “how you will never get a girl in that thing.”  You give in to the pressure knowing that you can’t really afford a car payment on your current salary.  The pleasure of not having your friends bash you and to feel like you “fit in” has now caused long term financial pain. 

Both examples listed above are decisions to choose short term pleasure that cause long term pain. 

The key to living a breakthrough lifestyle is choosing short term pain that results in long term pleasure. 

Hebrews 12:11 (NIV) says: 
11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Hebrews 12:11 teaches us that if we have certain disciplines in our life today, they will produce as harvest later on in our life. The harvest that is promised is a harvest of righteousness and Peace. Scripture does state that that human beings cannot achieve righteousness through their own efforts: “Therefore no one will be declared righteous in God’s sight by the works of the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of our sin.” (Romans 3:20) 

We are not disciplining ourselves to get God’s approval rather we are disciplining our life to align our life with the God’s best for our life. The result is a harvest! God’s best for our life is found in obedience to Gods commands. 

Living out Gods commands is the safest way to live your life. 

Obedience is what moves our life from breakdown to breakthrough. As we all know, obedience can bring short term pain but in so doing will reap long term righteousness and peace in our life. 
  

 Hebrews 12:1-2 (NIV) says12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

So how do we create the disciplines in our life that bring short term pain but result in long term Godly pleasure? 

  • Sit down with a piece of paper and pen.
  • Take an audit of what you do for pleasure and what painful situations you habitually avoid.
  • After you make your list take some time in prayer and ask: “Holy Spirit, What short term habits and routines have I formed in my life? How will they effect me long term?
  • Take time to listen to His voice.
  • Then ask: Holy Spirit, what steps can I take starting today to breakthrough the negative habits and pursue long term Godly pleasure?
  • Again, take time to listen and write down the answers.
  • Begin setting small daily goals to change the negative habits by consciously changing one or two things that help to move your life in the opposite direction.
  • Finally, ask: “Holy Spirit, give me the strength to move past the destructive habits in my life and set me free from the negative thoughts attached to my habits. Thank you for being my comforter and spirit of truth! In Jesus name, Amen!

You have God’s presence with you at all times. He is cheering you on. You are an overcomer in Christ and He has given you the strength by his spirit to move your life from breakdown to breakthrough so you can experience His best for your life!

 

What breakthroughs have you experienced this week? Let me know by commenting below!