We lie to ourselves.
We lie to ourselves with “Good Intention” conversations.
“One more week of working 60 hours and then I am going to make time for my kids.”
“After this Friday, I am going to get back to the gym.”
“This is the last day I’m eating fast food.”
Whatever conversation we tell ourselves, it’s good intention conversations that keep us from the hard decisions and hard work needed to live our best life and do great work.
Good intentions create a false sense of momentum.
They make us feel good because we WANT to do good. The problem is the feeling associated with our good intentions mask over that fact that we are doing nothing to move forward and take action.
If we are honest, we would admit that we are avoiding something.
Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them. – Henry Ford
There is often a deeper conversation that keeps up from taking action.
Our good intentions are often associated with feelings of guilt and failure.
We don’t take action because we have ‘tried in the past”, “my family is already upset with me so why try”, I’ve tried too many times to lose weight”.
When your good intentions begin racing through your mind, remember that THIS IS YOUR ONLY LIFE.
We all know that good intentions are meaningless unless acted upon.
So how do we stop the lies act on our good intentions and follow through?
Follow these five steps:
1. Acknowledge the deeper conversation.
Be honest with yourself where you feel guilt and failure but don’t allow these conversations to hold you back.
2. Find a WHY larger than your LIE
The real reason we have good intentions but aren’t acting on them is because our WHY is not larger than our LIE. To move forward with anything that takes hard work, we have to have an emotional why that drives us to act. Every day at lunch I go to Crossfit and workout. There are many days where I don’t want to go. It’s my WHY that drives me to go regardless of my emotions. What’s my WHY? We had a close friend of our that lost their husband to a heart attack. She is now a widow with two little kids. Every day I think about him and then I think about my family and how I want to be healthy for them. My WHY is larger than my LIE of “I’ll get back to the gym soon”.
3. Go for the short win.
Set short, achievable goals. Focus on daily and weekly goals when you are first starting to overcome your good intentions.
Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. – Henry Ford
4. Get it on your calendar.
If you don’t schedule it, it’s not going to happen.
5. Tell “everyone” about your good intentions.
This will give place instant pressure on you and give you immediate accountability. I wouldn’t really tell everyone! Tell those that you trust and will push you to follow through.
Question: What lies do you tell yourself and what steps can you take to overcome them? Leave a comment below!