How to deal with someone that has a grudge against you
You know they are upset. They’re walking around telling everyone… but you. You have heard about it from three people now, yet you’ve not heard it from them. Yep, you said something, did something, that offended them and now they are mad. You didn’t mean too, it just happened.
Welcome to the world of ministry, family, workplace politics or just…life.
Your words can be taken out of context. Your motives will be judged. You may not have a smile on your face when you make eye contact with someone and that will cause somebody to judge you and hold a grudge. But what do you do when you find out about it?
The mature thing to do is to go to the person and work through the grudge. It doesn’t matter who it is, we should make the first move.
So what do you say?
Begin with this sentence: “I am sorry if there is any way that I have offended you and I’m asking for your forgiveness.”
Maybe in this situation you are right but by asking forgiveness for the offense, it defuses the situation, breaks down walls of hostility and opens up the door for true reconciliation to happen.
Here are some great questions to ask yourself: 1. Is there any grudges that I have failed to address? 2. Is there anyone that I am refusing to forgive? 3. Is there anyone that has offended me?
Move your relationships from breakdown to breakthrough today!
How have you handled someone that had a grudge against you?
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