My life used to be pretty chaotic. I would over commit and underestimate what I could actually accomplish leaving me feeling unclear as to what was most important. I was a habitual overcommitter (That’s a new word I just made up! Well, after a Google search it is in the urban dictionary.) I would say yes to serving on boards, yes to every counseling session, yes to taking on that extra project, yes to the dinner appointments, yes, yes , yes. I wanted to help people so I always said yes. It was easy to justify my yes answer under the guise of “helping” people. As I said yes to helping others, I was causing areas of breakdown in my own life.
Today, I still love helping people but am very focused and clear about what I commit to. Over the last four years I have learned the difference between being busy and living focused.
Focused living is saying no to everything that is not essential to your core purpose.
My core purpose is: “To help my family, friends, church and world learn and grow in the way, the truth and the life of Jesus.”
So how can you know what fits in your core purpose and what does not?
I use the following core guiding principles to direct how I accomplish my core purpose:
- I will live out my core purpose by prioritizing my schedule around my family before everything else.
- I will live out my core purpose by teaching, equipping and participating in community with our element Church family.
- I will live out my core purpose through the 1 Day Breakthrough blog, podcast, teaching and coaching.
Everything I say yes to has to fit in to my core guiding principles and my commitment schedule.
My commitment schedule looks life this:
- I commit to one counseling session on Sunday after service only unless it is an emergency. All counseling sessions have to be done by 2pm.
- I commit to early morning breakfast appointments and short lunch appointments two times a week.
- I commit to one extra evening appointment twice a month.
- I commit to attending a small group one evening a week at my church
If you are unclear as to where to commit your time and energy, take time to define the following three things for your life:
- Your core purpose
- Your core guiding principles
- Your commitment schedule.
When you have these three things defined, will gain the clarity and focused needed to move your priorities and schedule from breakdown to breakthrough!
Question: What areas of your life are you looking for greater clarity? Leave a comment below.